Mother’s instinct and mother’s love is a hardwired thing created by nature or shall we say God. It is on the PCB (printed Circuit Board) of the motherboard of every mother; from a dog to a giraffe including humans. The reason is that a child is protected by the mother till he can fight his own battles and is protected from bigger more powerful species for the species to survive. This protectionist attitude and love unfortunately goes from “womb to tomb”.- maybe it is because it is permanently etched on the brain’s PCB. For a mother a child is always a child. Is that right?
I feel nature has gone wrong in a way- after a while when the kid grows and is ready to go he literally goes and dumps the mother to be on her own and also the father.
This is more in humans off late because of being too individual centric and too selfish. They forget the sacrifices of the mother and father when they were the main priority for them, when their entire timetable was according to the child’s requirement, from waking up, breakfast, getting ready, food, holidays, exams everything. You can pardon the animals as they can’t think but humans can’t grant a self pardon as they very much know the difference between right and wrong.
In this corporate success or gold rush parents are sent to old age homes. Boy! Now the boy is big, he has become a man! WOW, Or a JACKAL.
Let me quote one such case out of thousands from a report from Indian Express.
The Telangana High Court in India had come to the rescue of a 59-year-old widow who was harassed by her son and daughter-in-law and kicked out of her house. Holding that the petitioner woman was entitled to protection under the Maintenance and Welfare of the Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007 in all respects, including protection to the subject property, restoration of possession and granting police protection to her, the court directed that the property be restored to her within three weeks.
Judge delivered the judgment, on a writ petition filed by the woman, complaining of inaction by the police in not registering cases against her son and daughter-in-law, and failure to provide protection to her and her property as per Article 21 and 300-4 of the Constitution.
“The breaking of the joint family system and formation of nuclear families and materialism taking deep roots in our psyche resulted in lack of a support mechanism to elder members of the family. There are innumerable instances of elders in the family being subjected to harassment, intimidation, knocking away their properties, and making them orphans.
Disturbed by the treatment meted out to parents and senior citizens, the Indian Parliament enacted The Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007, which is a comprehensive enactment for maintenance and welfare of parents and senior citizens. The primary object of the Act is to protect from deprivation, particularly senior citizens, and in general the parents,” the court observed.
The case of the petitioner woman was that she owns a flat near Kukatpally in the city and she was forcibly thrown out of her flat by her son and daughter-in-law.
Though complaints were madeto the local police, the authorities concerned failed to take any action, and she did not regain possession of her flat with police protection. In her complaint to the Cyberabad police commissioner, she urged for booking a criminal case against the said two persons and to punish them for alleged harassment, throwing her out of her flat, indulging in criminal intimidation and trying to kill her.
She also made a representation to the district collector, seeking to grant protection to her life and property as per provisions of the Act.
It is a shame on our society that we are not only defying basic human value but also defying God!
“Maa ko abhee bhee Dard hota hai par Bachche ko nahin?” He is too busy with his work and HIS family.
You could watch on TV how mothers were crying on airports when their kids were returning back from war torn Ukraine, praying to god that they were safe. Imagine if one of these after a successful medical career kicks the same parents out! What will you call that? ‘pure practicality?’ my foot.
We have become too synthetic and artificial in our stance. Let us stop pretending and take a real call.
Stop writing on your T shirt ‘be human’, ‘love everyone’, ‘I love my mom and dad’, ‘care for the needy’, ‘be selfless’, ‘we are a global village’, ‘philanthropy first’.
Stop giving synthetic gifts on birthdays to your parents. Having a simple meal with them will do much more good- just hold their hand and sit for a while and see the ‘Chamtkar’. Only this much is required- no fancy presents and birthday cards please.
We are taught about corporate social responsibility. As they say charity begins at home; therefore, first heal your homes and then attempt to heal the world or as fashionably we say ‘save the planet’. Care for your larger family and parents.
‘Save your families first’
We are so much concerned about International Relations and warring countries every day. Have we looked at wars within families?
Can we just blame God, or blame the progress we have made? Just think and act if this makes sense. Amen.
Pathetic situation ! Most of it is brought about by parents themselves by not imparting the timeless values and culture of Sanatana Dharma. Only a strong foundation of ethics right since early childhood can shape good Character of a child. Besides that all parents must save money and assets for their own well-being in old age. Do not disclose everything about your financial status to your children. Have some dependable friends around to help you at any point in time. Do not fear to take tough decisions with your children if they tread on the path of Adharma!